Ep 19. The Masculine Fire: Longing, Lack & Reclamation
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Welcome, sisters. Welcome back to Radiance, a podcast where mysticism, embodiment, and modern wisdom meet.
Hello, my name is Dr. Irene, the gypsy witch doctor, and I'm your host.
For today’s episode, I want to give you a transmission of something I’m personally moving through right now in my body. It’s about the longing for the sacred masculine—the warmth, the fire, the protection of the divine masculine. And what happens when it’s missing? How do we reclaim it, both within and without?
Let’s begin.
I’ve been dealing with lower back pain for a while. It happened while snowboarding, but when I go within—when I really tap into the psycho-spiritual and emotional layer of it—I find a deep ache. A deep ache for stability. For structure. And in the archetypal paradigm, that relates to the masculine: to feeling safe, to feeling contained.
Something profound happened during a session with one of my beautiful healing practitioners. She held my hips very firmly, and I became emotional. I realized—I have this deep ache for the masculine to hold me, to contain me. To make me feel safe and stable.
And I’ve been observing a similar theme in the collective.
Earlier this year, I launched a Womb Quiz for women—to bring awareness to areas of misalignment with hormones, the womb space, and the body. I’ve been gathering data from the women who took it—many of you—and most results point to cold wombs.
There’s a loss of warmth.
We’re stripping the Earth of resources, trying to control nature. I don’t know if you’ve seen this, but in the UK they’re experimenting with blocking sunlight to fight global warming. We’re trying to control nature—and this isn’t new. It’s been happening for a long, long time.
So the feminine shuts down. We need the masculine. We need the fire.
And let me be clear: this isn’t about complaining. In feminist movements or women’s circles, there can sometimes be a trend of attacking men—pointing fingers, criticizing, blaming. But this isn’t about blame. This is about illuminating what’s happening in the collective, and honoring the very real longing we hold as women.
There is a deep ache.
A longing for warmth, for fire, for protection, for containment.
And what do we do if we’re not receiving that externally?
First, we must acknowledge the longing. We want the healthy men.
I was having a conversation with a dear friend recently. She said that after talking to so many women with painful experiences around men, she’s starting to become more critical—even though she wasn’t before. But she reminded me: men are actually amazing. Empowered, healthy masculine men are beautiful. And we need them. We need you.
She also shared a powerful visual I want to pass on: In ancient times, children were at the center of the community circle. Surrounding them were the mothers, then the elders, and finally—the men—forming the outer ring. Holding the circle. Protecting the whole.
Now that circle is broken.
And without that containment, women are stepping into roles that were traditionally held by men. We’re leading, holding, doing it all.
When there’s a lack of fire, two things happen:
We get numb. We freeze. There’s no action—just stagnation.
Or we overdo. We take on the masculine energy. We push. We lead. We overproduce.
Women are becoming hyper-masculinized. You can see it in the body—rigidity, broader shoulders, more angularity. It shows up in body characterology.
And I wanted to share something else. I asked my friend Tim to tune in and connect with the collective feminine womb. She felt that the most common state wasn’t just cold—but stagnant.
This aligns with what we see in women experiencing endometriosis, fibroids, heavy menstrual bleeding, clots, dark blood. Women who feel stuck—in relationships, in jobs, in thoughts that just keep looping.
Stagnant wombs. Frozen energy.
When there’s no warmth, everything freezes. Or we go into hyperdrive, trying to do it all.
And here’s the thing: Women are fucking amazing. We can do so much. We are powerful.
But it’s not our role to hold everything.
Our role is to nurture. To bring harmony. To connect to the magic and the mystery. To bring in the downloads for the collective. We are the ones who hold the mystical and offer it as medicine.
Inside of us, there’s a desire for the external masculine—but he’s not here yet. It’s going to take time for the masculine to catch up.
So what do we do while we wait?
One of my coaches always says: Waiting is suffering. Empowerment comes through loving, powerful action.
So we begin with the inner work.
We integrate the divine masculine archetype within ourselves. We tend to our own inner fire. We ignite it. We marry our inner feminine and inner masculine.
We create sacred union within.
Because toxic masculinity isn’t just in men. It lives inside us, too. We’ve internalized it through overproduction, mental overdrive, bypassing our bodies, dismissing our cycles, shaming menopause, avoiding emotions, participating in gossip and toxic sisterhood.
We need to face all of it. To do the inner work. To release what no longer serves and create a more coherent way of being.
Because as we heal ourselves, we heal the collective. As we integrate our shadows, we help the collective integrate its own.
Once we feel safe within—once we’ve claimed our inner masculine and created sacred union—our Shakti can move. We can create, die, transform. Then we can magnetize the healthy masculine externally. It will ripple out. The masculine will catch up. But it begins here.
One of the ways to do this is to work with archetypes. The sun and moon are universal symbols of masculine and feminine.
The sun is warmth, fire, generosity. It penetrates. It strengthens. It makes us feel alive.
The moon is the night, stillness, receptivity, the mystery. The feminine.
So how do we integrate both?
We’re nearing the solstice, and I’m offering a Womb Awakening Activation—a sacred sexuality journey into the womb space. A 7-day activation aligned with the sun and the energy of Shiva, the divine masculine.
We’ll be working with pleasure wands—quartz wands like rose or clear quartz. If you’re joining, please get one as soon as possible. I’ll share a link with some of my favorites.
You’ll infuse your wand with the energy of Shiva, the sacred masculine. Then, through conscious penetration—done in the privacy of your own space—you’ll bless your womb with sacred fire.
We’ll also work with the Merkaba—the chariot of light, our vehicle of ascension. This is a way to rise through embodied practice. Not bypassing the body, but grounding into it. Not avoiding emotions, but embracing them.
There is a whole universe inside your womb. Inside your yoni. Inside your vulva.
You can access pleasure. You can have multi-orgasmic experiences. But more than that—you remember who you are. You remember your true nature.
These practices strip away the false identities we’ve carried our whole lives. They help us return to our divine essence.
That’s the intention of the activation.
So if something stirred in you—if you’ve felt that deep ache but didn’t have the words—and now you do, please share your insights. What moved in your body? Your womb? Your heart?
Breathe. Your breath is your anchor.
Be gentle. Be compassionate. Let it rise.
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I hope to see you in the activation. I can’t wait to share sacred space with you again.
Many blessings, and chao for now.
